What Are the Pros and Cons When Older Women Dating Younger Men

Dating someone younger may be a challenge, but it certainly can work, especially for older women dating younger men. Being an older woman in a relationship does tend to come with certain perks and downfalls, whether you are two or three years his senior or are talking cougar territory. So, what are the pros and cons when older women dating younger men?

Pros:

The Sex

You can't argue with biology. There are some differences between men and women. Men reach their sexual prime in their 20s, while women reach theirs in 30s and 40s. A younger man has more energy and is more willing to try things, doing new things increase dopamine in the brain, triggering a desire to spend more time together and assisting in lighting your sexual fire.

He's Fun to Date

You will have dinner dates, but also be ready for a 10-mile hike on weekend followed by an indie rock concert the next. Younger men will see you as smarter and worldlier, so they will want to please you, not just physically but emotionally and intellectually.

Less Baggage

When older women start a new relationship, it is no secret that they are bringing former boyfriends along with them. But a younger man likely is packing less. Men can have preconceived notions about women and relationships based on past experiences, the younger and less experienced he is, the more open they will be in his relationship with you. Less baggage can also mean a lack of relationship skills, such as communicating and resolving problems and conflicts. Be selective about your battles and learn to compromise on things that aren't vital to your relationship.

Cons:

Lifestyle Differences

If a lot of your guy's friends are single and young, they are going out to bars for drinking and flirting with women. So don't be surprised if he chooses hanging with his bros over coming over to your place more often than you'd hope he would.

They are Scared of Commitment

It can be hard to get the commitment of a younger man for an older woman, in some cases, a younger guy is developmentally in a different place. They are not ready for all of the pressures and responsibilities that go along with a committed relationship because his emotional maturity is not fully developed yet.

Biology

Women in their mid-20s to early 30s are prime for baby-making, but younger men don't have the "dad" gene in them until they get to be more established and mature. Therefore, if you want kids, it could be several years until your youthful partner is ready to face the reality of raising one.

The "Mommy" Complex

The chemistry is there and you're on the same page about many things, but often your careers will be at different stages, which could lead to resentment. Being older, you are more successful and established, while he's still climbing the corporate ladder or even getting a career going. This can de-masculinize a man and make him feel like he's unable to provide for and protect you.

A man can sometimes make his girlfriend feel like more of a mommy-figure than a peer, women in this situation may end up being a sugar mamma rather than an equal partner. Being the breadwinner may not matter to you if, say, he makes an amazing dinner every night so you don't have to worry about cooking or he's a great handyman and has updated your entire apartment, but only you can decide that.

There are not only pros about older women dating younger men, as well as cons. So, if you are an older woman wants to date a younger man, these cons you should take into consideration.